NPR: A Caregiver's Survival Guide

Wednesday, October 29, 2025

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NPR: A Caregiver's Survival Guide

Accessed 21 October 2025 by Gail K. Kachnycz

     My good friend Donna was introduced to you for Mother's Day 2024. Here is the link:

Mothers Day: Don't Compare

     Donna shared this article with me. "NPR: A caregiver's survival guide: Advice from people who've been there," by Kat McGowan and Connie Hanzhang Jin. It was published October 18, 2025 on NPR. Using the crowd-sourcing ability of public media, these authors compiled information for caregivers divided into several categories: (1) The medical maze: How to help your person through it (2) The new normal: This isn't the life I planned. How do I adjust? (3) Help! How to ask for (and accept) support (4) Self-care: It's essential and it's not what you think (5) Your new relationship: Dealing with a changing dynamic (6) Explore more resources. Each section has the option "Can't see this visual? Click here." By clicking, you will be able to access the details of that particular section.  Although not from a Christian perspective, the information is helpful to anyone in a caregiver role. Here is the link:

NPR A Caregiver's Survival Guide

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SELF CARE: NEW START

Wednesday, October 22, 2025

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Image: Harvest Moon Rises Above Ocean by Gail K. Kachnycz 7 October 2025

SELF CARE: NEW START by Gail K. Kachnycz on 22 October 2025

     You may have noticed there was no new post published last week on A Map Through The Valley. I was taking some time off for self-care, so important for caregivers. I spent two weeks in Ocean City New Jersey with my Elephant Sisters and other friends. If you are not familiar with the term Elephant Sisters, this post explains it:

Elephant Sisters 


     While we were in Ocean City, the full moon, called the Harvest Moon, was due. The name Harvest Moon connotes the timing during the fall, when most crops were harvested. The full moon at that time of year provided extra light to complete the task of harvesting the field. The moon's orbit around the earth is not symmetrical or circular, but rather oval shaped. This harvest moon occurred at the point when the moon is closest to the earth (perigee). After checking for the time and location of moonrise, several of us walked out to the boardwalk and searched the eastern horizon. It seemed like forever, but sure enough, a golden pink edge appeared over the ocean. 


     A cloud bank was hugging the ocean, so for a brief period part of the moon's appearance was obscured. But as the moon continued to ascend, the complete orb was visible.


     The parable here is that God is often closer than we think. But, if we know what signs to look for, we will see His presence in our lives. Even if circumstances obscure our vision, if we continue to look to the Lord and trust Him, He is faithful.

"The heavens declare the glory of God; the skies proclaim the work of His hands." Psalm 19:1

     As noted in the post September 24, this blog has been active for two years now.

Bloggy-versary Two!

 The Lord has provided me the unique opportunity in the next 4-5 months to devote more time to content and expansion of A Map Through The Valley. Please join me in praying for guidance from the Lord with this project. Thank you again to all the subscribers and readers.

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MEDICARE OPEN ENROLLMENT

Wednesday, October 8, 2025

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MEDICARE OPEN ENROLLMENT  by Gail K. Kachnycz 

     Open Enrollment for Medicare begins October 15, 2025 and ends December 7, 2025. There are quite a few options, and health insurance "Advantage Plans" will be flooding the TV with ads. Of course, they will try to convince you that their plan is the best for you. However, unbiased information and assistance is available through PA MEDI. An appointment is needed, so make contact early to arrange a time to see a counselor.  PA MEDI was introduced on A Map Through the Valley last October, so here is the link to that post which includes more information and the phone number to call.

Post: PA MEDI Explains Plans 

Here is a link to the Medicare website that lists information about Open Enrollment. I find government websites can be "Too Much Information" but it is the official website so no bias to promote an Advantage Plan

Medicare Website: Joining a Plan


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RECIPE: SPAGHETTI SQUASH

Wednesday, October 1, 2025

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Image: Roasted Spaghetti Squash by Gail K. Kachnycz

RECIPE: ROASTED SPAGHETTI SQUASH

     Fall is the time for squash. I like spaghetti squash because it is a veggie alternative to pasta, lower in calories, and gluten free (if that is a concern). The easiest way to cook it to free up the strands inside is to roast it, cut side down. Remember the "4's" that is, 400 degrees F for 40 minutes. I consulted an online cooking site, delish.com, for the particulars. For example, the safest way to cut through the rind, how to season it, and how to check that the squash is cooked but not overdone. Here's the link:

dlish.com cooking spaghetti squash

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Bloggy-versary Two!

Wednesday, September 24, 2025

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Image: Gail and Mike in Cape May, NJ on 23 June 2025

BLOGGY-VERSARY TWO!

     Who-da thunk it? The end of September marks the second year of this blog. It has been a challenge and learning experience for me, and very enjoyable. Thank you to all the readers and subscribers for taking the time to read the posts, comment, and share your insights and resource connections. 

     It is also a personal landmark for Mike and me. We are pictured above on June 23 in Cape May, NJ, where we attended the matinee performance of "Vanities." Our daughter-in-law was one of the three performers in the show. It was also our 35 th wedding anniversary. In 2018, when Mike was admitted to hospice, we didn't think we would celebrate 35 years together. But God had other plans!

"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future." Jeremiah 29:11 NIV

     We are thankful to God for His graciousness to us, and thankful for you as you have joined us in our journey. Happy Bloggy-versary!

                                 Mike & Gail June 23, 1990; God is faithful through all 35 years


 

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Highlight: Dementia Friends PA

Wednesday, September 17, 2025

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Logo: Dementia Friends Pennsylvania accessed 9 September 2025

Highlight: Dementia Friends PA by Gail K. Kachnycz 

     September is World Alzheimer's Month.  I recently learned about a community resource on the "Morning Light" show on Lighthouse TV. Dementia Friends Pennsylvania is part of a global movement that was started in the United Kingdom. Here is the introduction from the website:

"To become a Dementia Friend, you join others in a one-hour Dementia Friends Information Session. The session will cover five key messages about dementia and touch on what it is like to live with dementia. As a Dementia Friend you will turn your understanding into a practical action that can help someone with dementia in your community. The action can be as big or small as you choose, because every action counts!"

Here is the link to Dementia Friends Pennsylvania:

Dementia Friends Pennsylvania

Here is the link to Lighthouse TV. The Morning Light show has featured resources for caregivers.

Lighthouse TV

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SEPTEMBER SPOTLIGHT

Wednesday, September 10, 2025

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Cancer Color Ribbons

SEPTEMBER SPOTLIGHT by Gail K. Kachnycz on 10 September 2025

     September is a busy month: the new school year begins and people return from vacation to settle into the fall routine. September is also a time to draw attention to some health concerns.

     September is Suicide Prevention Month; September 10 is Suicide Prevention Day. Those experiencing a mental health crisis, or concerned family or friends can call the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988. More information about this resource was published on the blog last September. Here is the link:

 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline Information

     September is also Awareness Month for several types of cancer. These are identified by the American Association for Cancer Research (AACR). They are listed here with their ribbon colors:

Childhood Cancer (gold), Leukemia & Lymphoma (orange), Ovarian (teal), Prostate (light blue), Thyroid (teal/pink/blue), Gynecologic (uterine, peach).

The mission of AACR is listed below. To learn more, here is a link:

aacr.org

The mission of the American Association for Cancer Research is to prevent and cure cancer through:

  • Research
  • Education
  • Communication
  • Collaboration
  • Science Policy and Advocacy
  • Funding for Cancer Research


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RECIPE: New Life for Condiments

Wednesday, September 3, 2025

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Image: Condiments from Gail's fridge 8/14/25

RECIPE: New Life for Condiments by Gail K. Kachnycz 3 September 2025

     So, the last summer holiday is over. What to do with those half-used bottles of condiments? As you know, mayonnaise can be substituted for eggs and oil some baked goods. Here are the links to posts that include that information:

Egg Substitutes March 2025 

Banana Baked Oatmeal 2/21/24 

     However, there is a way to use mayonnaise, ketchup, and pickle relish that is genius, in my opinion. Make Thousand Island Dressing! As a kid, I thought the bits of pickle were the "thousand islands," but apparently, this dressing was invented for vacationers in the Thousand Island region on the St. Lawrence River near Lake Ontario. Either connection works for me. Just mix the ketchup and pickle relish into the mayonnaise, and thin down with lemon juice to the consistency of your liking. Sorry, no measured amounts here, just eye-ball it and adjust "to taste." If you're not a fan of pickle relish, just leave it out and you have Russian Dressing. Enjoy! 

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Supports for Grieving Part 2: Children

Wednesday, August 27, 2025

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Image: Helen and Joshua, Christmas Eve 1998

Supports for Grieving Part 2: Children by Gail K. Kachnycz on 27 August 2025

     In the post earlier this month, I shared a composition by my son Joshua. My mother lived with us from the time he was a toddler until he was starting third grade. A retired kindergarten teacher and lover of books, she taught Joshua to read the summer between kindergarten and first grade using phonics. He has been a wordsmith ever since then, and currently makes an income recording audible versions of books. However, since she had been a part of his life on a daily basis, her death was that much more difficult. I, of course, was also dealing with the loss of my mother and I don't know that I had enough emotional strength to help him as well. Today's post shares resources for helping children through their grieving. First, Joshua has given me permission to share this essay he wrote in 6 th grade, three years after her death.

GRANDMA GONE by Joshua Kachnycz November 2002

     One Thursday in third grade was a particularly wonderful day. I did not have a lot of homework, I had handed in all of my work for the day, and I was looking forward to getting home.

     [At dismissal time] I looked around to try to see my mom, but instead saw my dad sitting on the steps to the upper yard. As I approached him, I could see a few tears in his eyes and I asked him what was wrong. He said that he would tell me after we walked to the van. So we walked to the van, I opened the door, and tossed my backpack in the middle seat. I jumped into the van and my dad stood by the door.

     "Grandma...Grandma was in a car accident and she is in the hospital now," my dad said. At hearing that I broke into tears. I cried rivers, no lakes, no oceans of tears for probably the next half-hour. When I finally stopped I felt like I had a coconut lodged in my throat. My eyes were red and I couldn't see very well because of all the tears. After that we drove home.

     When my dad and I arrived home we found out from my mom that grandma had a broken arm, broken ribs, and a damaged lung. My grandma was on a machine that helped her breathe in the hospital for two months.

     On December 7, 1999 the doctors had to pull the plug for my grandmother's machine. Once I found out that my grandmother was gone it felt like my entire world was crumbling around me, like I had a hole in me the size of a tractor. However, not everything was as bad as it seemed. That summer I went to a family reunion in Illinois and moved to Wyndmoor where I made a lot of new friends.

RESOURCES:

In the Philadelphia area: Uplift Center for Grieving Children

Mr. Rogers, an ordained Presbyterian minister, and known for his role in the program "Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood," has said, "I've come to believe that anything human is mentionable, and anything mentionable can be manageable." I'm listing several programs and a book by him.

These materials can be obtained from 

Family Communications, Inc. 4802 Fifth Avenue, Pittsburgh, PA 15213 (412-687-2990)

Booklet and video program: Talking With Young Children About Death by Fred Rogers

Book: When a Pet Dies by Fred Rogers, Program: "Death of a Goldfish" Mr. Rogers Neighborhood

Mr. Rogers speaks on children's grief 


 


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Emergency Preparation: BHG Article

Wednesday, August 20, 2025

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Emergency Preparation: BHG Article

     As this post is being published, the Jersey shore is being pounded with high surf generated by Hurricane Erin. Because Hurricane Season reaches its peak in September, revisiting preparing for emergencies is a good idea. In home care and at school, the nurse always had a "Go Bag" packed with essentials that was ready to take should the client need to evacuate quickly. The bag should be checked on a regular basis, say, on "the 15 th of the month" or, "the second Saturday of the month." Set a reminder on your phone and make it a routine. Here is an article from Better Homes & Gardens on preparing for emergencies.

12 Critical Supplies

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SANDWICH GENERATION

Thursday, August 14, 2025

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Image: Family Christmas Eve 1998

SANDWICH GENERATION by Gail K. Kachnycz on 14 August 2025

     Quite often, someone caring for an elderly parent also has children in the home. Being responsible for the care of both the old and the young can include difficulties, and those in the middle can feel sandwiched, or pressed, in more ways than one. For support and resources, please see these previous posts:

Introducing...A Boomer Hero 

How to Care for Aging Parents 

     Along with the responsibilities and concerns, there are advantages and benefits. Depending on their level of function, the grandparents and grandchildren can enjoy time together and "have an impact." My mother lived with us when my son Joshua was age two to eight years. He has given me permission to share this essay which he wrote in 6 th grade at age 11. Of course I am biased, but I think he was quite articulate. Helen was not his great-grandmother, but she was "great."

GREAT GRANDMOTHER by Joshua Kachnycz, November 2002

     My grandmother was always someone I looked up to, someone who was always there for me-up until December 7, 1999, but that is an entirely different story.

     My grandmother, Helen Kimbleton, has made a very large impact on my life. Here are some examples of ways that my grandmother has impacted me.

     When I was four and five I loved to have her read to me. This gave me my great adoration for reading, which I do every day. Every Thursday during the summer my grandma and I would go to the library and the playground across the street from it.

     The playground was typical with monkey bars, slides, poles, and basketball hoops. I would play there for hours upon hours in that playground. But there was one feature that most other playgrounds did not have that I loved the best. It was a baseball field where I could practice my swing. My grandmother and I might play catch or she would pitch to me and I would swing. This inspired me to spend most of my free time outside.

     My grandmother and I sometimes went on walks and planted some trees. She taught me how to take care of plants and gave me a baby tree which I named "Woody." He is still planted in the backyard of my old house. This motivated me to care more about nature.

     All of these things that my grandmother inspired me to do are things that I still do to this day so that her memory will live on in my heart.

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Cancer Overlap with Chronic Illness

Thursday, August 7, 2025

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Image: Cancer Color Ribbons accessed 7 August 2025

CANCER OVERLAP WITH CHRONIC ILLNESS by Gail K. Kachnycz 7 August 2025

     Thankfully, today a diagnosis of cancer is not always a death sentence. There are many people who are cancer survivors or in remission. However, the treatment may take months or years. While more targeted than in years past, the surgeries, chemotherapy, radiation, and other therapies affect the person in other ways than just eliminating the tumor cells. Cancer treatment has many of the characteristics of chronic illness.

     Fortunately, the network of support for those fighting cancer is strong. Today's post highlights the ribbons/colors for cancer awareness. Certain months of the year are also devoted to increasing knowledge and funding for research for various cancers. During the awareness campaigns, there is often an emphasis on prevention. With new studies, the recommendations for initiating screenings have changed. For example, the age to start screening for colon cancer is now 45 instead of 50. Women of average risk for breast cancer should begin mammograms at age 40.

     Prevention also includes avoiding toxic substances. Recently, several food companies have announced that synthetic food dyes will be phased out in US products, with complete removal targeted for the end of 2027. These dyes may not be linked specifically with cancer, but removing them improves the safety of our foods. You can evaluate ingredients in food & cosmetics using an App called "Yuka." The App can scan products and show what additives are in them. Here is a link to demonstrate the App.

Yuka App

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PECO Medical Certification Waiver

Friday, August 1, 2025

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Image: Logo for PECO Electric Company

PECO Medical Certification Waiver, or DON'T LET THIS HAPPEN TO YOU!

by Gail K. Kachnycz on August 1, 2025

     This past Saturday, during the fourth hottest July on record in Philadelphia, I opened a letter from PECO that said: TEN DAY SHUT OFF NOTICE. Of course, the first thing I did was panic, and there followed a series of unfortunate events which were extremely frustrating. Long story short, our electric service has continued uninterrupted, and we are enjoying air conditioned cool in our house, but I would like to spare you a similar scenario by sharing my experience.

     The initial pebble in the pond that began this downward spiral was a breech in our bank account in early May. Thousands of dollars were transferred out of our account. The bank froze all of our accounts for three weeks while a fraud investigation took place. Thankfully, all funds were restored. A friend at church who works in finance told me, "That doesn't always happen. God had your back!" Indeed. We thank God for His favor and grace to us in this situation. After three weeks, the bank advised us to open new accounts. We transferred all funds to the new accounts. However, our Social Security was still being deposited into the old checking account, so we still had to maintain that account until arrangements could be made to change the deposits (this takes about 2 months).

     We had bank cards for the new accounts within 24 hours. I began making calls to all the services and utilities to catch up on payments that came due while our accounts were frozen. The general number for PECO was answered by "AI Lady," that is, an automated menu. I selected "Billing" and paid using the new bank card. The automated menu offered the option: "Save this card for future payments?" I said "Yes." So, when a statement from PECO came that noted, "Automatic Payment Deducted on 7/17/2025" I thought the new bank card was used. Therefore, it was a shock when the shut-off letter arrived July 26. Apparently, PECO kept trying to take payments from the "old" checking account which was frozen.

      The shut-off letter included a statement that electricity would not be shut off if "you or anyone presently and normally living in your home is seriously ill," but certain requirements had to be fulfilled for this type of waiver. The letter listed steps to take, such as having the doctor call and then send a letter. My friend Donna works in a Cardiology practice, and told me an easier way to do this:

1. Have these ready: the PECO account information, the patient's  information, and the name of the practice, the doctor's name, and fax number

2. Pack your patience. I was on hold for 45 minutes. Fold laundry or do something you can drop as soon as the service rep answers. The business hours are Monday-Friday, 7 AM-7 PM, but recorded message says there is high volume of calls Mondays and 11 AM-2 PM Tuesday to Friday, so long waits then.

3. Call 1-888-480-1533. This connects you directly to the Credit Department, who handles the waivers. This is not the general PECO number.

4. State that you need a "Medical Certification Form" to be faxed to the doctor's office. 

5. They may ask for the patient's name and address. Also give them the doctor's name and fax number. Ask for the PECO fax number in case the doctor's office does not have it on file.

6. Check if there is a confirmation number for your request/conversation.

7. Contact the doctor's office to alert them that the PECO Medical Certification form is being faxed from PECO.

     The Medical Certification gives a window of 30 days. During that time, the electricity will not be shut off. Meanwhile, the reason for the shut-off can be addressed. 

     Finally, I hope your bank account is never hacked. If you do have to stop your automatic payments, don't trust "AI Lady." Be sure to speak with a real person. Stop the deductions from the old account, and then ask about the process to start automatic payments using your new account.

Trying to stop automatic payments

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Re-Post: Christmas in July

Wednesday, July 23, 2025

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RE-POST: CHRISTMAS IN JULY by Gail K. Kachnycz

     Now that we are in the midst of the renovation project, re-posting this idea for de-stressing the holidays is just the ticket. Here is the link:

Christmas in July; Plan Ahead

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Resource: Supports for Grieving Part 1

Thursday, July 17, 2025

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Image: Summer Sky 5/28/2024 by Gail K. Kachnycz

RESOURCE: Supports for Grieving Part 1 by Gail K. Kachnycz 17 July 2025

     Sometimes our role as caregiver ends because the journey of our loved one on earth has ended. Although it is a comfort to know they are "absent from the body and ...present with the Lord" (2 Corinthians 5:8), we miss them and grieve the loss. A daily routine devoted to support and caregiving no longer provides structure to the day, which can intensify loneliness. Grief is different for each person, and can be unpredictable. Today I am posting resources that have been shared with me, either personally or professionally. Some are not specifically Christian, but their aim is to provide support. In two weeks I will share Part 2, listing resources specifically designed for children experiencing loss.

Image: The Verse of the Day 14 July 2025

SUPPORT GROUPS:

Grief Share Not specifically Christian, but provides supports both online and in person

Boomers R Heroes Support groups online and in person for grief, general caregivers, and Alzheimer's

BOOKS:

90 Minutes in Heaven by Don Piper with Cecil Murphey Blog Post Book Review

Glimpses of Heaven; Reflections on Your Eternal Hope by Dave & Jan Dravecky with Amanda Sorenson 

When God Doesn't Make Sense by Dr. James Dobson Blog Post: Deeper Questions 6/4//25





 

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RECIPE: New Life for Left-Overs

Thursday, July 10, 2025

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Image: Condiments by Gail K. Kachnycz 10 July 2025

RECIPE: NEW LIFE FOR LEFT-OVERS by Gail K. Kachnycz 10 July 2025

     In anticipation of relocating while internal repairs are made to the house, I am trying to empty out the fridge and freezer. As you can see from the image for this post, Mike buys in bulk: half gallons of Barbecue Sauce, cases of canned corn and baked beans. There is another full case of beans not even pictured here. My mother grew up during the Depression, so tossing food was unthinkable. I try to find some ways to use things up, but it makes for some interesting combinations. One of my "go-to" recipes is chili made in a slow cooker. It is different every time, depending on what needs to be used up. For example, burgers were sent home from the family July 4 gathering. I cut them up and cooked them in a can of Manwich. That will be the meat for the chili. Left over salsa dip? In it goes. BBQ sauce? About 1/4 cup will add a sweet compliment to the heat of the salsa. I usually use red kidney beans, black beans, and garbanzos (chick peas) for visual variety, but this time around the regular baked beans will go in. I always add a can of corn for eye appeal and sweetness. The last batch I made used up a jar of Bruschetta, adding extra tomatoes to the mix. Here is a very general list of ingredients, check your fridge for other options!

Chili from Left-Overs by Gail K. Kachnycz 10 July 2025

Use slow-cooker on low for 6 hours. Everything is already cooked, just needs to "meld."

MEAT:

1 Can of prepared chili, or cut-up burgers with Manwich, or cooked freezer burnt sausages or meat (the seasonings will overcome the lack of flavor from freezer burn)

VEGGIES:

1 Can each (rinsed) of red kidney beans, black beans, chick peas, corn. Substitute other beans on hand. The baked beans will go in "as is" with their sauce, not rinsed. 

Bell pepper, sauteed. Onions, sauteed. 15 oz can of crushed or diced tomatoes, pasta sauce, etc.

SEASONINGS (adjust to your taste):

1 Tablespoon chili powder or Taco seasoning, 1 teaspoon Cumin, Salsa 1/2 jar, 1/4 cup BBQ Sauce

If you desire: salt, pepper, Hot Sauce 

No corn chips to accompany? I use Corn Chex cereal as a topper. They add  a satisfying crunch.

Future posts will show how to use up ketchup, mustard, mayo and pickle relish.

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Today's Plan

Thursday, July 3, 2025

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Image: Source not known. A good friend sent this image to me this morning.

TODAY'S PLAN by Gail K. Kachnycz on 3 July 2025

     We are now two months into the house project. Exterior repairs are nearing completion. However, as I explained in the post May 28, there have been problems at almost every stage of the project. My sister, who is a Project Manager and works with these situations on a daily basis, said to expect this. It doesn't make it any easier.

     Completing the exterior work means that interior repairs are next. This increases the urgency of purging the items to be donated or disposed of, and packing & storing those that remain. Imagine the Candy Conveyor Belt scene from "I Love Lucy." "Speed it up!" The task seems so overwhelming that at times I am immobilized and resort to avoidance behaviors & procrastination. Sound familiar? Even if it is not a house repair project, we all have responsibilities that can loom before us and we don't know where to begin to pare them down to manageable tasks. Our congregation is reading through the Gospel of John, and in Chapter 8 I discovered a verse that is helpful.

And He who sent Me is with Me. The Father has not left Me alone, for I always do those things that please Him. John 8:29 NKJV

     First, Jesus reminds us that the Father was with Him. The acronym that is the image for this post includes the reminder to "Dedicate your day to God." Remember to draw close to Him immediately as the day begins.

     Second, and this is what really impressed me: Jesus did not do everything there was to do. He did everything He was told to do by the Father. As we dedicate the day to the Lord, ask Him to guide and instruct us, to set the priorities. That way, the time will be used as the Lord desires and directs. He knows our limits and will not overwhelm us. He gives the example of a "yoke" in Matthew 11. The picture is two animals, yoked together and pulling in tandem. Let us join ourselves to the Lord each morning, acknowledging that as He sets the pace and direction, we can meet the challenges of the day.

Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For My yoke is easy and My burden is light. Matthew 11:28-30 NKJV

 

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Emergency Preparation

Wednesday, June 25, 2025

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Image: CBS News Philadelphia 20 June 2025

EMERGENCY PREPARATION by Gail K. Kachnycz 25 June 2025

 

     Last Thursday evening, June 19, strong storms hit the Delaware Valley. Our power went out about 5:30 PM. Electricity was restored in our home about 11:30 AM the next day. However, neighbors only a few miles away had no electricity for 3-4 days. We also had outages for 3 hours Sunday and 30 minutes just last night. Our cell phone service has been spotty. This experience has prompted today's post. 

     Caregivers and those with chronic illness face added difficulties in emergency situations. Medical equipment may have battery back-up, but eventually recharging is needed. Lack of air conditioning, or poor air quality, first affects sensitive groups such as those with heart/lung conditions, children and elderly. Some events can be anticipated, such as hurricanes or severe snowstorms. Others can happen with little or no warning, such as the storm we experienced, or wild fires. Hurricane season on the East Coast & Gulf starts June 1 and continues through November 30. These dates are good reminders to review a plan for emergencies, and update or replace supplies that are nearing their expiration date.

     To be quite honest, I do not have a formal Emergency Plan or stock of supplies. However, I always try to fill the car with gas, since no electricity means the pumps will not work. Making sure my phone is fully charged is important, since that is the portal for news and communication. After our recent experience, I am looking at how I can be better prepared. I am including the links for Ready.gov below. If you have tips, ideas, or information that is helpful for planning for emergencies, please share with me. If appropriate, I will include in future posts. I do plan to have several posts on different topics for emergency planning, such as electronics, food, and medication.

Ready Emergency Supply List

Ready.gov Website

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Juneteenth Flag Symbols

Thursday, June 19, 2025

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JUNETEENTH FLAG SYMBOLS

     Since Juneteenth has been an official Federal Holiday for only a few years, I am still learning the history connected with it. This 2022 article by a CNN reporter explains the symbolism in the Juneteenth flag. Each symbol is positive and forward looking. It is an encouragement to me. Juneteenth is cause for celebration.

Meaning of Juneteenth Flag

The advertisements in the CNN article may not reflect the mission of this blog. I apologize for the advertisements and other links, but wanted to give full credit to the CNN author rather than cut and paste the information.

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CAREGIVERS: Unsung but Not Unseen

Thursday, June 12, 2025

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Image: The Verse of the Day 

CAREGIVERS: UNSUNG BUT NOT UNSEEN by Gail K. Kachnycz 12 June 2025

     The purpose of caregiving is to provide the one cared for the highest quality of life and independence

that can be achieved within the limits of their current chronic illness. By its very nature, caregiving is

an activity that takes place in the background. This affords the loved one dignity and recognition of their value as an individual. However, this means that the caregiver is often overlooked. People

see the challenges and effort of the one living with chronic illness. They ask, “How is your

[spouse/parent/loved one]?” but may fail to ask how the caregiver is dealing with circumstances.


     Caregiving often means isolation, especially if the loved one cannot be left unattended. The caregiver

can feel alone and discouraged. They think no one appreciates what they do. If the loved one is mentally

impaired, he or she may not have the ability to express thanks. No one knows what patience it took to

wait while your loved one searched for words. No one knows how much self control it took to listen to

the same story over and over, or answer the same question again and again, because memory is fading.

But God is aware. He is The God Who Sees.


     El Roi, The God Who Sees is identified in Genesis Chapter 16. God showed Himself this way not to

one of the Patriarchs, but to Hagar, a rebellious Egyptian servant. At the time she was newly pregnant,

and had run away from Abram’s wife Sarai. She was feeling alone and desperate. The Angel of the Lord

met her where she was, and gently redirected her to return to her place with Sarai. God knew all she was

going through. Hagar was overwhelmed that God was interested in her, and she received His blessing. 


     As caregivers, at times we may feel unappreciated, alone, and desperate. God sees our circumstances

and sacrifice. Let the story of Hagar allow us to recognize that God will meet us where we are, and in so

doing, receive His blessing. Caregivers may be unsung, but not unseen.

You number my wanderings; Put my tears in your bottle; Are they not in Your book?

When I cry out to You, Then my enemies will turn back; This I know, because God is for me.

Psalm 56:8-9 NKJV 


Reference: The Names of God, by Dr. William Allan Dean, pages 8-15. Copyright 1963 by

Philadelphia College of Bible (now Cairn University)

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Deeper Questions

Wednesday, June 4, 2025

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Image: Book Cover, "When God Doesn't Make Sense" by James Dobson

DEEPER QUESTIONS by Gail K. Kachnycz on 4 June 2025

     The Mission Statement for this blog begins, "The purpose of this platform, A Map Through the Valley, is to provide practical, useful information for those with chronic illness and their care givers, and encouragement from a Christian worldview. The question of why we suffer is beyond the scope of this platform. That issue has been explored by scholars far more learned than this humble writer. I will aim to compile a list of their books and other writings as a resource for those who are struggling with this question." Today I will review three such books. I hope this is helpful.

When God Doesn't Make Sense by James Dobson is written in a practical and straightforward manner, with examples from the author's personal experience and other sources. I found this book to be sensitive and consistent in directing our attention to both God's tender care and greater purposes in our lives.

The Problem of Pain and A Grief Observed are both written by C.S. Lewis, a well-known Christian writer from the last century. Many are familiar with the book series he wrote for children, The Chronicles of Narnia.  Shadowlands is both a play and a movie which dramatizes his experience as his wife fought cancer, experienced remission, but eventually succumbed and passed away.

A Grief Observed records Lewis's thoughts and struggles. It is not an easy read, but demonstrates that even those with strong faith can experience despair and doubt when a loved one dies.

The Problem of Pain is more academic. It is dedicated to "The Inklings," the group of Oxford scholars that included Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien. These guys were deep thinkers, and the book reflects that. I found it difficult to slog through this one, and I must admit I have set it aside to finish reading at a later date.

Of the three, I would recommend When God Doesn't Make Sense to anyone who is asking "Why did this happen?" or feels that God is far away at this time. The books may be purchased online, but I check with my local Christian bookstore first to support local business. If any of the readers of the blog have suggestions for books, movies, or other media they have found helpful, please feel free to share with me. I will review them and may include in a future post.


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Emergency Tea Kit

Wednesday, May 28, 2025

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EMERGENCY TEA KIT by Gail K. Kachnycz on 28 May 2025

     Having an Emergency Tea Kit is something I highly recommend. I came close to using mine recently, when the stress of the renovation really intensified. The 50 year old siding was removed from our house, revealing fiberboard and tar paper (no Tyvek in 1973!). The following day, rain started and lasted for several days. I was sure the fiberboard would turn to mush and the house would fall down around our ears. When the rain stopped, the walls were covered in plywood, and some Tyvek was applied. Storms returned, this time with wind, which threatened to shred the Tyvek. Finally, three weeks after the old siding was removed, new vinyl siding is in place. The storms apparently also caused a surge which damaged our heat pump, so that also needs repair. Believe me, my Elephant Sisters and other prayer supporters were asked to pray almost daily!  

     Having a warm drink is very comforting in a crisis. You can sip and collect your thoughts. Here are the instructions for an Emergency Tea Kit:

Select a container that can withstand boiling water. Place packets of your tea of choice inside.

Attach instructions to the jar:

-In Emergency, open lid. Pour boiling water over contents of jar.

-Steep to desired strength. Sweeten if desired.

-Drink slowly, maintain a stiff upper lip. Keep calm and carry on. Philippians 4:6-7

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

Our house seemed shocked to find itself rather bare.
Between storms, siding was applied. Drilling, sawing, nailing meant a rather noisy environment. 


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Elephant Sisters

Thursday, May 15, 2025

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Image: Elephant Mug by Gail Kachnycz 15 May 2025

ELEPHANT SISTERS by Gail K. Kachnycz on 15 May 2025

     I have a couple of prayer partners that I consider "Elephant Sisters." Why an "elephant" sister? The name refers to the social culture of elephants in the wild. Female elephants form herds related by birth (mother/daughters, sisters and their offspring). When danger threatens, the mature elephants form a protective ring around the young or vulnerable members of the group. This is known as an "alert circle" and is rather remarkable to see. The behavior was recorded when a small earthquake occurred near the San Diego Zoo. You may need to skip through ads. Read the description on YouTube below the video for more information.

Elephant Alert Circle

     I hope you can call to mind friends who are Elephant Sisters or "a friend who sticks closer than a brother," (Proverbs 18:24) Caregivers really need that kind of support on an ongoing basis. Elephant Sisters know us well and are ready to provide encouragement and prayer for matters large and small. Although they may offer a scripture verse or make a suggestion for solving the problem, the first thing they do is surround us in prayer. Creating the circle may be as simple as setting up a group text to be in contact both routinely and urgently in a crisis. For guidance on setting up prayer support, see the previous post on Prayer Circles.

Prayer Circles

A man of many companions may come to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Proverbs 18:24 ESV

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Circles of Love

Wednesday, May 7, 2025

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Image: Blossom Bowl at Chanticleer Garden by Gail K. Kachnycz on 7 June 2023

CIRCLES OF LOVE

     This year's tribute to mothers is a little different. In most cases, the connection between mother and child is a steadfast demonstration of unconditional love. However, there are times when tensions or misunderstandings lead to resentment and strained relationships. Recently, the poem "Outwitted" by Edwin Markham came to mind. Here it is:

     Outwitted; by Edwin Markham

He drew a circle that shut me out--Heretic, a rebel, a thing to flout.

But Love and I had the wit to win: We drew a circle that took him in!


     As Mothers Day approaches, some strained relationships may resurface. Let us do what we can to extend the hand of fellowship, regardless of the response from the other person. Remember how God drew a circle that took us in:

But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from wrath through Him. For if when we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life. And not only that, but we also rejoice in God through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received the reconciliation. Romans 5:8-11


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RECIPE: Iron Rich Soup

Wednesday, April 30, 2025

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Image: Cannellini Bean Soup by Gail Kachnycz; 18 April 2025

RECIPE: IRON RICH SOUP

     Do you or your loved one need a boost to iron intake? If you are not a fan of beef liver, oysters, or sardines, you will be glad to know that three ounces of dark chocolate has 7 mg of iron. That's only slightly less that 8 mg of iron in 3 ounces of oysters. So, eat up that chocolate "for medicinal purposes."

     To get your iron from savory sources, rather than sweet, this take on Italian Cannellini Bean Soup will do the trick. White beans, chickpeas, and spinach are high in iron. Canned tomatoes (not fresh) have iron and Vitamin C which promotes absorption of iron by the body. One caution: do not use bone broth in this soup, as calcium actually reduces absorption of iron. Adding cooked quinoa compliments the beans to provide a complete protein (gluten free).

INGREDIENTS

1 can (15 oz) Cannellini Beans, drained & rinsed

1 can Chick Peas, drained & rinsed

3 Tablespoons Extra Virgin Olive Oil

3 Stalks Celery, thinly sliced

3 Carrots, chopped

1 Spanish Onion, chopped

2 Cloves Garlic, minced. I use pre-minced garlic in the jar; 1 rounded teaspoon approximates 1 clove

1 Can (15 oz) Diced Tomatoes

1 Tablespoon Tomato Paste

1 1/2 Cup Broth (vegetable or beef/chicken, not bone broth)

1/3 Cup White Wine (optional) the alcohol evaporates, but flavor is enhanced

1/2 Tablespoon Italian Seasoning. Salt and Pepper to taste.

3 Cups Baby Spinach, roughly chopped

1/2 to 1 Cup Quinoa (cooked according to directions)

INSTRUCTIONS:

In a large pot on the stove, heat the olive oil. Cook & stir celery, carrots, and onion about 5 minutes. Add garlic and cook 1-2 minutes more.

Add Cannellini Beans, chick peas, diced tomatoes, tomato paste, broth, wine, Italian seasoning, and cooked quinoa. Since these ingredients are already cooked, bring to just a simmer, then cook about 20 minutes until everything is well heated. If necessary, add water to keep everything covered in liquid. Add salt & pepper to taste.

Finally, add the chopped spinach and stir until it is just wilted but still nicely green. Enjoy!

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More on Money

Wednesday, April 23, 2025

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MORE ON MONEY

     Tax season requires a look at our financial picture. Having done that, it may be time to adjust cash flow or decide what to do with any tax refund. Managing finances can be complicated. It can be even more difficult to mange money for someone else, especially the estate if someone has died unexpectedly. For most people, it is an unfamiliar role and requires attention to detail that can be exhausting, especially while grieving the loss of a loved one. Here is a link to an article that may be helpful:

What to Do When a Loved One Unexpectedly Dies

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Paradise is Opened

Thursday, April 17, 2025

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Image: Japanese Cherry Tree 9 April 2025 by Gail K. Kachnycz

PARADISE IS OPENED

     Tomorrow we will remember the sacrifice Jesus made for our sins, and look forward to Resurrection Sunday for the promise of Paradise. The loss of a loved one is painful, regardless of how recent or distant the time of the bereavement is. Christ promised that those who believe in Him would be immediately in Paradise with Him (Luke 23:43). 

     What is heaven like? There is a description in the book of Revelation, especially Chapters 21 and 22. A contemporary picture is given in the book, 90 Minutes in Heaven. This is the true story of Don Piper, who was in a car hit by a tractor trailer on a rain-slicked bridge in 1989. First Responders declared him dead and turned their attention to others at the scene. A pastor who arrived volunteered to stay and pray with the body. After an hour and a half, the pastor heard Don singing a hymn! Don was rushed to a trauma center for immediate surgery. He spent many months healing and regaining the use of his legs. The book, first published in 2004 and updated in 2014, describes his experience in heaven, his painful and discouraging hospitalization, his long recovery, and how his journey brought hope to others. I read it between Christmas and New Years, and could hardly put it down. 

     In 2013, Don's wife Eva published A Walk Through the Dark, a book describing the same events from her perspective as a wife and care-giver. I was very encouraged to see Eva's side told, as I feel that the story was not complete until her role was included. I think other care-givers would agree. I ordered the books at my local Christian bookstore. You can also obtain them from Amazon.


90 Minutes in Heaven by Don Piper with Cecil Murphey


A Walk Through the Dark by Eva Piper with Cecil Murphey


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Finances for Special Needs

Wednesday, April 9, 2025

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Image: Hourglass by Steve Buissinne on Pixabay.com accessed 9 April 2025

FINANCES FOR SPECIAL NEEDS INDIVIDUALS 
Tax filing day is less than a week away! Each year, we try to adjust the amount withheld so that we will neither owe payment nor receive a refund at tax time. This time of year many people review their finances: income, expenses, savings, and retirement funds. Individuals with Special Needs often need payment for special equipment or other accommodations. Caregivers may have questions about how to set up a special fund for the individual to cover these expenses, without affecting the income from government programs. There are financial advisors who specialize in this type of fund management. Laws affecting finances for special needs individuals can change with amendments and vary from state to state. Here are some resources that may be helpful (thanks to my friend Donna, who is a Special Mom!).




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