Happy Bloggy-versary!

Friday, September 27, 2024

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Image: Mike and me at Longwood Gardens September 2023

                                                           HAPPY BLOGGY-VERSARY

By Gail K. Kachnycz 26 September 2024 

     The end of September marks one year since A Map Through The Valley was launched. I would like to thank God for blessing this endeavor and using it to encourage and bless other care-givers and those they support.

     I would especially like to acknowledge my husband, Mike, for being open about the challenges he faces in his journey of chronic illness. He has been brave and generous in allowing me to share our experiences on a public forum.

     Sincere thanks also go to those people who have given of their time to be Beta Readers. Their thoughtful comments result in improvements before the posts are published. I cannot speak highly enough of my blog mentor and tech support, Julie. She makes the website look great and easy to navigate.

     Finally, thank you to all our subscribers. Many of you have responded with comments of how the posts have encouraged you. Some have shared resources or suggestions that have been featured on the website. A few have allowed me to relate your own stories. I have been reminded that many of you are praying for Mike and me, and for the ministry of the blog; thank you so much.

     It took almost three years from the time I first began to write essays until A Map Through The Valley was launched. During this first year going live, I have had a steep learning curve as far as technical information and entering the blogosphere. But, I have learned other lessons as well:

     Mike and I are not alone.

     There is a wonderful group of supporters for us.

     There are resources, support groups, and practical help in the wider community—often initiated by people who saw a need, based on their own experiences.    

     A Map Through The Valley has been active now for one year, but it is not my first effort at blogging. In 2017, I took a road trip with my younger son to Wyoming to see the total eclipse of the sun, and wrote a blog about our trip. Several months afterward, I published a post summarizing the experience titled, “Was It Worth It?” I recently read over that post, and realized that it set the stage for the current blog for care-givers. That trip and blog were important “Because I pushed myself beyond my comfort zone, daring to plan, and pray, and finally believe that this amazing trip could happen.” These same elements resulted in A Map Through The Valley.

     In the coming weeks I will be doing some self-care for refreshment and restoration. During that time, a couple of recipes will be published on the blog. They are very easy ones I developed as a busy care-giver. The butternut squash combination is one of my favorites for this time of fall harvest. You may also enjoy my blog from 2017. Here is the link:

westtrek2017 

Now to Him who is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that works in us, to Him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus to all generations, forever and ever. Amen. Ephesians 3:20-21 NKJV  


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Resource: Christian Mental Health Initiative

Saturday, September 21, 2024

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Image: Logo, Christian Mental Health Initiative. Accessed 21 September 2024

FEATURED RESOURCE: CHRISTIAN MENTAL HEALTH INITIATIVE

     This week we introduce the resource Christian Mental Health Initiative

     Just as Christians are susceptible to physical illness, they are not immune to mental illness. However, they may feel that a Christian should not struggle with mental health issues. Scripture passages such as 

"The joy of the Lord is my strength." Nehemiah 8:10

"I can do all things through Christ Who strengthens me." Philippians 4:13

seem to indicate that a Christian should not need professional counseling. However, just as a broken leg needs a medical doctor, a broken heart can require the services of a professional counselor. Secular counseling can be helpful, but a Christian appreciates counseling that includes prayer and an approach that recognizes the sinful nature of humans and the power of Christ to overcome sin. Tapping into healing by the Holy Spirit is a limitless source of comfort and strength, but at times personal support is needed to guide someone to the Healer. 

     The Christian Mental Health Initiative addresses many issues. During September, Suicide Prevention Month, these articles have been posted on their website. 



    

 I hope that this resource will be a benefit to care-givers and those they love as they explore other topics on this website.





  

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988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

Friday, September 13, 2024

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Image: Website Logo; 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

988 SUICIDE & CRISIS LIFELINE

     September is designated Suicide Prevention Month; September 10 is World Suicide Prevention Day. This week highlights 988, the emergency number to connect to help for a mental health crisis.

Access the 988 website here:  988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline

     In the summer of 2022, the "988" program was launched in the United States; Canada initiated 988 in 2023. The purpose was to have a simple number to use in a mental health crisis, similar to "911" for a crime, fire, or medical emergency. 988 is easy to remember, rather than a 10 digit hotline. The program also unifies systems for specific populations. For example, after dialing 988, there are menu options to choose Spanish language or military veterans. Washington State has added a selection for Native Americans. Besides phoning, other methods to connect with the service include text and chat. The website offers access to American Sign Language (ASL) services.

     988 is active 24/7 every day. Conversations are confidential. On the website homepage you will see:



     The name of the program, "988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline," expands the scope of the assistance beyond only suicide, and emphasizes a positive path toward hope. The website also provides resources for those who want to support a family member or friend in getting the help they need. 

     Please make a note of this emergency number, and also inform others.  





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Fred and Edith: Extraordinary Story

Monday, September 2, 2024

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Image: Fred & Edith Duling, at home June 2014

FRED & EDITH: EXTRAORDINARY STORY

By Gail K. Kachnycz 31 August 2024

     “One moment your life is normal, and the next, it’s not.” That is how my friend Edith describes December 6, 2010. On that day, her husband Fred was found unconscious on the floor in the vestibule of the Malta Boat Club. He was alone in the building, stringing Christmas lights, so no one knows exactly what happened. He was discovered by a fellow member of the boat club who had returned to the boathouse to retrieve his jacket. This is just the first of many demonstrations of God’s grace and mercy. Because the foyer was not heated, Fred was exposed to the December chill and his body temperature had plummeted to 86 degrees F. He had sustained multiple facial fractures, but most significant were the injuries to his spine. He was paralyzed below the shoulders and had little movement of his arms and hands.

     After 45 years of marriage, Edith was looking forward to retirement with Fred. She had cared for her elderly mother until her passing. Perhaps now they could travel. Fred had spent many years in the sport of rowing and had participated in many international events. In 1977 and 1978, he was on the podium, placing 3rd in the 2-man event at the World Championships in Amsterdam and Copenhagen. He earned first place in other events in Canada and the US from 1975 to 2009. He began coaching rowers in 1980 and continued in various coaching capacities through the 2000’s.

     On Thanksgiving 2010, he completed a 5-K run as he had done for decades. Less than two weeks later, he was on the brink of death. Immediately, Fred and Edith were surrounded and supported by family, the rowing community, and their church fellowship. The road to recovery was arduous, but Fred met the challenge. On October 25, 2014, he was back on the Schuylkill River, rowing in a specially adapted 2-man shell. Fred’s supporters created the website, www.pullforfred.org 

which includes Fred’s story of athletic achievement. It also explains the nature of his injury. The website notes, “In order to master life after a spinal cord injury, you need courage, commitment, and a sense of challenge. I think we all know that Fred possesses those qualities.”

     Edith was immediately thrust into the caregiver role again. Not only did she provide Fred’s physical care, but she arranged for adapted equipment such as a motorized wheelchair and wheelchair-accessible van. She became his advocate for individualized medical treatments, since due to his impaired nerve function he often had atypical reactions to medications or subtle symptoms that worsened rapidly.

     When my husband Mike went on long-term disability in 2012, and hospice was recommended in 2018, Edith helped me navigate the caregiver role. She provided a listening ear and shared her experiences. As caregivers, we spoke the same language. When I was just starting to write blog posts for the website A Map Through the Valley, Edith encouraged me, saying, “You put my world into words.”

     Early estimates of how long Fred would survive after the injury were rather open-ended, but usually projected about 18 months to two years. Fred surpassed those time frames by more than a decade, due to the physical and mental training as an elite athlete, but also due to Edith’s expert caregiving. The impact of the prayer support of their church fellowship cannot be measured. This was made quite evident during his most recent hospitalization. Edith was extremely cautious about protecting Fred from exposure to Covid, but this summer he became infected for the first time with the virus and it progressed to pneumonia. When the request for prayer was made, I must confess that, as a nurse, I did not hold out much hope for recovery. Many people his age had succumbed, even without the complication of spinal cord injury. However, inside his frail body was a world-class athlete. For three weeks, he battled the infection and we prayed. What rejoicing there was when he was discharged for a course of rehab before returning home!

     On September 5, Fred will be 80 years old. He beat the odds, by the Grace of God. We salute Fred and Edith as they celebrate this milestone. In different ways, they are both coaches, and definitely world-class.

Fred (on the right) with Rick Stehlik, 3rd place finish at World Championship 1977 Amsterdam

Fred (on the left, still a champ!) in his adapted shell, Schuylkill River, Philadelphia PA 2013




 

 

      

 

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